I still don't know what I want to be, to be honest.
And how many of us actually ever want to grow up? It almost occurs as stripping the playfulness, games and fun out of life. And who wants that?
I've begun to wonder if this is even the right question…


We all lose track of what is important sometimes.
We can get bogged down.

Vision matters.

The big picture matters.
Living our values matters.

What’s important?

It’s team.
It’s our tribe, our people, our clique.
It’s the people we seek to do.
It’s how we choose to invest our time.
It’s the work we do in the world.
And if a time comes when we don’t feel on track with that?
It might be time to consider what’s next, or take a timeout to refresh, renew and reset.

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Who were the cool kids when you went to school? Who did you have a crush on?

I feel like some of that child-like part of us never goes away.
The curiosity. The wonder. The spark. For some of us, the attention-seeking, or need to be teacher's pet, or top of the class.

Who are you? And in business — who do you idolise, love or admire from afar?

I’m majorly crushing on Canva Team right now. Of course, they are the popular…


I had a huge aha moment last week.
Many people enjoy helping. Enjoy giving us feedback.
Enjoy imparting wisdom.
Especially when we follow up with them, say thank you, were are grateful, and here’s what we did with what we learned, rather than crickets after they have invested time and energy…


Full disclosure, I’m approaching my 40th year on the planet.
Don’t all tell me at once how young and fabulous I look (go on then, just a little), and I’m planning & executing my journey into startups now?
Aren’t they full of energetic, hip, tech-savvy, coding geniuses, decades younger than yours truly?
Do startups have a place for someone like me?

A couple of things.

I never did like trying to fit in the mould. Or in boxes.
They are often too small. And too rigid.

Then there is the X-factor.

My ex-husband, that is.
My ex-husband was a founder, inventor, entrepreneur, and, to be fair, brilliant visionary.
While I was with him, I felt like I was in the world of…


I love writing. So much. I do it every day.
But getting my completed, edited posts in the format I love, daily, is still something I find challenging somedays.

The format?
A snappy first sentence. This is our traditional hook. The point is to capture attention, so the reader reads on.
A quick story from life, a real story, to illustrate the point I would like to make. The point is this is the story part.
Then something tangible—strategy and action. This…


How many times have you had a broken heart?
How many more times will you?
There is nothing that feels quite as amazing as being in love.
It’s risky, yes, but worth it.
Why?

Connection.
Belonging.
Tribe.
Finding that special someone.
Our partner in crime.
Our other half.
Hopefully for a lifetime, right?
Realistically, unlikely these…


Leaders bring out the best in those they lead or serve.
Leaders inspire trust.
Excellent leaders are role models and teachers.

Emotionally intelligent leaders are aware of their own emotions and intuitively aware of the emotions of others — their clients, customers, team, stakeholders — everyone. They are not only willing to listen to the concerns of others but can decipher, even in silence, the emotions our facial expressions and body…


Over the weekend, I was chatting with a few friends and colleagues. “I’m on breakdown number 4; what are you on?” was a common theme of banter.

It got me thinking about the differences in the mindset of people who successfully keep their minds in check, despite what’s happening, and those who are not so fortunate. I’ve frequently pondered this in the context of prisoners too.

So, what exactly is happening to your brain while you are in lockdown? I found this awesome article, a little dated but still relevant.

Here’s the key summary~

  • Your executive function skills are zapped — impacting decision making, memory…


I love watching RuPaul & the fabulous Queens compete on RuPaul’s Drag Race.
However, I hate the end of a season.
In fact, I loathe the end of any series.
I seriously don’t love endings in general.
They make me feel all icky inside.

The ending of my evening fiction book.
The ending of a movie.
Sometimes I’ll go to bed before something I’m enjoying is finished.
Why? I don’t want it to end.
And lockdown has exacerbated things.

How come I didn’t realise this was my last…?

Endings can be hard.
Sometimes they sneak up on us.
We don't realise that it is about…

Kristy Bertenshaw

I help people unlearn stuff that isn’t workable and design behaviour which guides them towards fulfilment, freedom & flow.

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