Sick of not getting the results you want? Change your life by answering these three simple questions.

How can I change my life? How can I create changes which actually last? What action should I take? How can I keep my promises? How can I keep the commitments I make to myself?

90% of the 22.7 million people that try to quit smoking each year fail.
95% of people who lose weight fail to keep it off long term.
92% of people who set New Year’s resolutions fail at their attempt.
Only 3% of people have specific, well-defined goals, but even then, only roughly 8 out of 100 people achieve their goals, most of the time.

Have you ever had the experience of working hard to create a lifestyle change— loose 10kg or 20lb, paying off your debts or credit card — only to find you lapsed back into old behaviours within a short period of time? Why do some people make changes that last long-term, whereas others have difficulty getting past the initial hurdles?

Maintaining our personal commitments can be problematic in the face of life’s constant challenges. When we find that willpower isn’t enough, we need to utilise the power of leverage to push us that extra mile.

Discovering the right leverage takes skill. But what is leverage?
Leverage is uncovering what’s most important to help us commit to making a change. To ensure that change is lasting, the commitment has to be overwhelming. It has to overcome the forces that hold our old behaviours and beliefs in place. We must figure out how to make things musts, instead of things we would like, instead of telling ourselves we should do this and should do that. To get ourselves to stop shoulding all over the place.

Two forces motivate us to do what we do — the fundamental need to avoid pain or the desire to gain pleasure.
This principle is what causes the ‘yo-yo’ pattern in some people: they go back and forth between taking action to create change and losing their drive to take any action at all. Change is never a matter of ability; it’s a matter of motivation. If change is a “should,” will we change? No.
Change has to be a MUST.

Photo by Austin Distel on Unsplash

Question 1: What three changes must I take to improve my life?
Question 2: What pain will it cost me if I don’t change?
Question 3: What pleasure will I gain if I take action right now?

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Kristy Bertenshaw

I love to write bite-sized stories, essays & poetry. Revenue Generation & Growth Specialist | Passionate About Using Technology & Storytelling to Drive Results.