What is stopping you from getting everything you ever wanted in life?
If we think about anything we want in life — that we don’t yet have — what is it that stops us from getting there?
The reasons I most often hear include:
I’m not motivated.
I’m too lazy.
I’m distracted.
I overanalyse things.
I’m stuck.
I’m lost.
I need to find myself.
I need more motivation.
I need more inspiration.
When was the last time we thought about our skill level in that area—for that ambition, aspiration, result or outcome—and asked ourselves:
How competent am I?
How capable am I to take a specific action to produce a specific, desired result or outcome? Do I even know what action to take?
How do I know it is the right action?
Then, check this out.
When we are motivated or inspired, are we physically able to take action right then? Or are we busy with something else/otherwise engaged?
For example, do we get inspired to go to the gym while we are at work? Or driving in the car? And by the time we have time to go, we no longer feel like it? Or we are too exhausted?
Do we have the tools we need to get the job done — do we have the resources? And is our environment set up for us to succeed?
Motivation.
Inspiration.
Ability.
Capability.
Competency.
Environment.
They all matter.
The other thing I notice is the crippling effect fear has on us.
We fear beginnings.
We fear endings.
We fear change.
We fear feeling stuck, and
We fear staying the same.
We fear success.
We fear failure.
We fear loss.
We fear spending.
We fear saving.
We fear not having enough money,
Then the more money we have the more we fear losing it.
We fear changing jobs,
We fear losing our jobs.
We fear being alone,
We fear ending relationships,
We fear losing a loved one.
We fear living,
We fear aging,
We fear dying.
Me? I often fear making decisions and asserting myself. I get stuck in analysis paralysis and call it something cute like I love to research, which is also true. Yet when I do these things — when I make a decision, take immediate action and assert myself — I feel like the best, most authentic version of myself. So, what can we do?
Start with asking ourselves a simple, quality question:
